Postpartum Sex
Bobo Team • All you need to know • 3 min read
Most healthcare providers recommend waiting 4-6 weeks after delivery before resuming sexual intercourse. This allows time for physical healing, especially if there was tearing or an episiotomy during vaginal birth, or for the incision to heal after a cesarean section. However, it's important to wait until you've been cleared by your healthcare provider at your postpartum checkup.
Physical Changes and Challenges
Many new parents experience physical changes that can affect their sex life:
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Vaginal dryness: Hormonal changes, especially in breastfeeding mothers, can lead to vaginal dryness. Using a water-based lubricant can help.
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Discomfort or pain: Some women may experience pain during intercourse, particularly if they had a tear or episiotomy. This usually improves with time.
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Changes in sensation**: The pelvic floor muscles may be weaker, which can affect sensation during sex.
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Fatigue: Caring for a newborn is exhausting, which can impact libido and energy for sex.
Emotional and Psychological Factors
It's normal for new parents to experience a range of emotions that can affect their sex life:
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Body image concerns: Your body has gone through significant changes, which may affect how you feel about yourself.
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Mood changes: Postpartum depression or anxiety can impact sexual desire.
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Shifting priorities: Adjusting to parenthood may mean sex isn't a top priority for a while.
Tips for a Healthy Postpartum Sex Life
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Communicate openly with your partner about your feelings, concerns, and desires.
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Take it slow and don't rush into intercourse if you're not ready.
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Explore other forms of intimacy, such as cuddling, massage, or oral sex.
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Use contraception if you don't want to become pregnant again right away.
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Practice pelvic floor exercises to help strengthen muscles and improve sensation.
When to Seek Help
If you experience persistent pain, bleeding, or other concerning symptoms during or after sex, consult your healthcare provider. Additionally, if you're struggling with body image issues or postpartum mood disorders, don't hesitate to seek professional help.
Remember, every person's postpartum journey is unique. It's important to be patient with yourself and your partner as you navigate this new phase of your relationship.
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Public Health Agency of Canada. (2023, May). Your guide to postpartum health and caring for your baby. Retrieved from https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/child-infant-health/postpartum-health-guide.html
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Cleveland Clinic. (n.d.). Getting busy after giving birth. Retrieved from https://health.clevelandclinic.org/sex-after-birth
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Rahmani, A., Fallahi, A., Allahqoli, L., Grylka-Baeschlin, S., & Alkatout, I. (2023). How do new mothers describe their postpartum sexual quality of life? A qualitative study. BMC Women's Health, 23(1), Article 10492381. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10492381/
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Public Health Agency of Canada. (2020, December 16). Chapter 5: Postpartum care. Retrieved from https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/publications/healthy-living/maternity-newborn-care-guidelines-chapter-5.html
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